Practical Tips for Letting Them Go
- More important than chronological age, is what you believe your child is capable of doing. Let that be your guide.
- Teach, practice, then gradually allow your child increasing freedom. My daughter knew that police officers are there to help, we had been up and down the block every day of her life, and she knew to stay on the sidewalk. She got lost anyway, but it gave her the chance to use everything she had learned.
You can still set limits and boundaries even if you say “Yes.”
- Yes—you can walk to your friend’s house. Call me when you get there.
- Yes—you can drive the car, but you cannot have any friends with you until you have had your license for 2 months.
What if your child ignores the limits?
- I need to know when you get to your friend’s house. Because you forgot to call me I will walk with you. You can walk alone next week and call me when you get there.
- Because you had a friend in the car with you the privilege of driving is suspended for this week. You can try again next week and remember the rules.